Relationship Counselling

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I’m here to support you and your partner through Couples Counselling. 

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Couples Counselling is a collaborative process where we work together to understand and resolve conflicts, improve communication, and strengthen your bond. Whether you’re facing specific issues or simply want to enhance your relationship, I’m here to provide a safe, non-judgmental space for both of you.

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My approach is tailored to your unique needs, drawing on various therapeutic techniques to help you gain insights and develop healthier patterns. I believe in the power of empathy, active listening, and practical strategies to foster a deeper connection between partners.

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Outside of counselling, I enjoy spending time outdoors, exploring the forest or beach with my dog, and recharging with family. I’m committed to continuous learning to ensure I provide the best possible support for you.

Let’s work together to create a more fulfilling and harmonious relationship.

 

Working with a couple for the benefit of both parties, in effect the relationship is my client not you as individuals. 

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Couples Therapy: What to Expect

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Couples therapy may not “save” your relationship Couples counselors cannot “save” or “fix” your relationship on their own. The effectiveness of therapy depends on the willingness, effort, and intent of both individuals. Therapists offer advice and teach strategies based on the information provided. If the information is inaccurate, incomplete, or confusing, the effectiveness of therapy may be compromised.

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Both partners need to be willing If both partners are not willing to try therapy, the results may be limited. While you can’t change your partner’s actions, seeking therapy alone might not change their mind. This could lead to frustration for you and feelings of pressure or bias for your partner, even if the therapist remains neutral.

Considering ending your relationship? A couples therapist can help you discuss the possibility of ending your relationship, acting as a moderator and providing insights. They can identify unhealthy coping mechanisms during sessions. Keeping an open mind and being willing to complete homework and participate in activities are crucial for achieving results in couples therapy.

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Work extends beyond sessions Therapy sessions provide the foundation for the skills you learn, but practicing these skills outside of sessions is essential for integration into your daily life. Therapy is not a permanent solution; the skills you learn are meant to help you make lasting changes. Ignoring homework, avoiding activities, or only trying coping skills sporadically may reduce their effectiveness.

 

Challenges of practicing at home It may feel easier to apply what you’ve learned in the structured environment of a therapy session. However, practicing these skills at home, especially during frustrating times or bad days, can be more challenging. Home life is where you can practice skills in real-time, making it crucial to dedicate yourselves to this effort, even when it’s difficult.

 

Willingness is essential Resistance to couples therapy is common, but a willingness to try and participate can make a significant difference. Deciding that you love your partner and want positive changes in your relationship is the first step.

Equal commitment is key Couples therapy is more effective when both partners are equally committed to making the relationship work. If one partner is fully committed while the other is only partially invested, it can lead to emotional distress and unfair dynamics. In some cases, ending the relationship might be the healthiest option. In others, a therapist can facilitate a heart-to-heart discussion about the effort needed for the relationship to continue.

 

Couples therapy is for everyone Many couples believe therapy is a last resort for issues like divorce or infidelity. However, couples counseling can be beneficial at any stage of a relationship. You don’t need a mental health diagnosis or be on the brink of divorce to seek guidance. Couples of any age, sexuality, gender identity, or background can benefit from this service.

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Proactive therapy Attending couples therapy without a current conflict or severe challenge can help you address minor issues and learn new skills for future conflicts. You can also discuss individual mental health concerns and how they impact your relationship.​